Some children naturally attract friends, others have to work harder at it. Children who are active, warm up easily in new situations and are not particularly sensitive, develop friendships most easily. But even they need support and guidance from parents. Whether your child has lots of friends or only a few, make sure you:

1) Open your home to his friends, particularly friends who you approve of.

2) Encourage your child to join a group (just be sure it's one that you support).

3) Don't embarrass or ridicule him in front of peers. It serves no constructive purpose, and will only alienate him from you.

4) Avoid labeling him as shy, mean or friendless. Labels only reinforce the behavior and image you don't want, and prevent your child from changing.

5) Allow a reasonable amount of telephone time, since it's often easier for kids to talk on the phone than in person.

6) Don't saddle your child with too many responsibilities and schedules. Make sure he has time for friendships to develop.

7) Allow him to buy that pair of jeans everyone is wearing. He needs to feel like he can fit in with his peers.