AGES TWO TO FIVE
Young children need sensitivity training in how to pet a dog and play gently. They can help hold the bowl and pour out the food or take a walk with you and the dog. But a child this young is a pretend helper. You're in charge. If you pick a puppy, you'll have to supervise your child more closely than you would if you adopt a full-grown dog, two years or older, who is used to children and thrives on handling.AGES SIX TO NINE
Include the child-owner on dog walks and let him help with the feeding. A child this age can help brush or even wash the dog, but you're still the lead groomer and caretaker. Set up a checklist of responsibilities and hand out little stars to help you and your child keep track of what he's done.AGES 10 TO 12
Preteens need someone to fuss over them, and a dog will. At this age they can play with the dog on their own and handle the food and water duties. Since preteens tend to have a lot on their minds, it's not a bad idea to create a checklist for them, too. Skip the stars.TEENAGERS
This is the time when children should head off to obedience training with the dog. Think how terrific it would be if Junior actually learned that there is a reason for good discipline. A dog also helps give a teenager a sense of control, responsibility and power at a time when all of the above might seem elusive. Skip the checklist unless he, well, needs one.No matter what the age of your child, make it a habit to include him in as many doggy activities as possible. My boys accompany me on every trip to the vet. This is a wonderful chance for them to show off their dog ownership to other dog-lovers. They also exercise Ginger, groom her, teach her tricks and clean up her messes (with my help). Their reward is that Ginger responds to them the way sweepstakes winners react to Ed McMahon.
